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Am I a bully?

What can I do?

If you know you have bullied others, even if you didn’t mean to, it’s important to know what to do to stop and move on. Sometimes, when it’s difficult at home or we aren’t happy we take it out on other people. If you think you may have bullied, we have some tips to help you.

Top tips

  • Admit it. Admitting to yourself that what you are doing is wrong is hard, but it’s the first step to stopping.
  • Say sorry. Find the people you have bullied or been unkind to and apologise. This will take a lot of courage as they might not want to talk to you, but it’s the right thing to do.
  • Think before pressing ‘send’.  If you’ve written a nasty text message or online post, read it again before you send it. Do you really want to send it and hurt someone’s feelings? If it’s nasty, delete it.
  • Think about why you have bullied. Is there something in your life that is upsetting you or making you feel angry or annoyed? Are you being bullied?
  • Focus on something else. Make it your goal to be better at your favourite sport, get better grades at school, or join a youth or film club. This will distract you and achieving something will make you feel good about yourself.
  • Talk to someone. If you feel that you can, talk to a teacher or parent/carer about what’s going on, or even a friend of your own age. If you’d like to talk to someone else, you can call Childline (0800 1111) and speak to a friendly counsellor. You can also contact Childline by email or online chat. Don’t worry, they won’t judge you or put you down.

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